Tuesday, April 13, 2010

I received an e mail today from a friend of mine, it's an article from Prospect Magazine and I thought it's really interesting. I am going to copy and paste the info in to the blog for you guys to have a look.
Have you got erotic capital?
CATHERINE HAKIM 24th March 2010 — Issue 169
It can be just as valuable as a university degree—especially for women


Katie Price, aka Jordan, does not owe her astonishing success to university
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Michelle and Barack Obama have it. Carla Bruni and David Beckham have it. Jordan has even made a career from it. So great is the advantage “erotic capital” can bring to the labour market—especially in sport, the arts, media and advertising—that it often outweighs educational qualifications.

It’s a term I coined to refer to a nebulous but crucial combination of physical and social attractiveness. Properly understood, erotic capital is what economists call a “personal asset,” ready to take its place alongside economic, cultural, human and social capital. It is just (if not more) as important for social mobility and success.

Erotic capital goes beyond beauty to include sex appeal, charm and social skills, physical fitness and liveliness, sexual competence and skills in self-presentation, such as face-painting, hairstyles, clothing and all the other arts of self-adornment. Most studies capture only one facet of it: photographs measure beauty or sex appeal, psychologists measure confidence and social skills, sex researchers ask about seduction skills and numbers of partners. Yet women have long excelled at such arts: that’s why they tend to be more dressed up than men at parties. They make more effort to develop the “soft skills” of charm, empathy, persuasion, deploying emotional intelligence and “emotional labour.” Indeed, the final element of erotic capital is unique to women: bearing children. In some cultures, fertility is an essential element of women’s erotic power. And even though female fertility is less important in northern Europe (where families are smaller) women’s dominant position in this market has been reinforced in recent decades by a much-lamented phenomenon: the sexualisation of culture.

Since the contraceptive revolution of the 1960s, surveys from around the world reveal a dramatic increase in sexual activities, numbers of partners and varieties of sex. London now hosts an annual Erotica fair, showcasing the new diversity of sexual lifestyles and tastes. World Health Organisation research shows that humans see sexual activity as essential to quality of life—but men still rank sex as more important than women. Indeed, rocketing global demand for sexual activity of all kinds (including commercial sex, autoeroticism and erotic entertainments) has been far more pronounced among men than women. Sex tourism is essentially a male hobby, while erotic magazines for women often fail.

This creates an effect that should be familiar to any economist: the laws of supply and demand raise the value of women’s erotic capital, in particular their beauty, sex appeal and sexual competence. It is happening in Scandinavia as well as Mediterranean countries, in China and the US. The pattern is confirmed even in countries that are sexually “liberated” such as Finland and France. Men are two to ten times more likely to have affairs, buy pornography, seek lap-dancing clubs and erotic entertainments. And call girls’ earnings can exceed wages in nearly all the professions, despite working shorter hours.

It is true, as feminists argue, that some of these relationships can be exploitative. And, to a degree, women’s new advantage is concealed by the explosion of sexual activity among both women and men under 30, many of whom now regard one-night stands and flings as normal. In this age group there is a parity of libido, but the imbalance returns among men over 30—surveys around the globe find that women over 30 steadily lose interest in erotic games.

This is an implicit rebuttal to feminist thinkers (like Sylvia Walby, Mary Evans, Monique Wittig or most recently Kat Banyard) who argue that men and women are “equal” in their sexual interest, as in everything else. This is obviously not true, which is why it should not surprise us that some women do use sex, and their erotic capital more generally, to get what they want. It happens as often today as in the past, as illustrated by the daily sexual bargaining described in Australian sex therapist Bettina Arndt’s 2009 book, The Sex Diaries.

The sexualisation of culture affects public as well as private life. Beauty, sex appeal, social skills and the arts of self-presentation have increasing value everywhere, helping to sell ideas, products and policies. Popular culture especially valorises female erotic capital: just look at unkempt boy bands and glossy girl bands. Yes, men with high levels of erotic capital do better than those who don’t. But it is beautiful and elegant women who grace the advertisements for products of all kinds, from cars to detergent—not men.

The economic benefits of being physically and socially attractive can be substantial, especially in marketing, public relations, television, advocacy in the courts, as well as for actors, singers and dancers. But it’s broader than this: people working in the better-paid parts of the private sector are more attractive than those in the public and non-profit sectors. Tall and attractive people are more likely to be employed in professional jobs, like law or banking. For the ugly and short, it gets worse. Good-looking people can earn 10 to 15 per cent more than the average-looking, who in turn can earn 10 to 15 per cent more than the plain or ugly. The tall earn more than the short; the obese have earnings 10 to 15 per cent below average. Statistical analysis shows this beauty premium is not really just about cleverly disguised differences in intelligence, social class or self-confidence. Studies of lawyers reveal that there is always a premium for attractiveness that varies in size, but is not due to employer discrimination. The most attractive can earn 12 per cent more than the unattractive, and are 20 per cent more likely to achieve partnership in their firm, because they are more effective at pulling in customers.

Indeed, there is a 25 percentage point difference in average earnings between unattractive and attractive minorities. This impact can be as big as the gap between having a degree and no qualifications at all—although it ranks well below intelligence as a determinant of life outcomes.

Intriguingly, this means erotic capital—if seen as an economic endowment—is an especially important asset for people with few intellectual abilities and qualifications. In Brazil, investing in cosmetic surgery is seen as a sensible way of getting ahead in a culture where looks and sensuality count. In Britain, too, a 2009 survey of teenage girls found that one-quarter think it is more important to be beautiful than clever.

Like it or not, erotic capital is now as valued as economic and human capital. As Chairman Mao advised—walk on two legs.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Pregnancy symptoms, minus the pregnancy!

It's Monday! So soon! And I woke up with a major itch to cook, bake and eat! No I am not PMSing, I'm just craving. And no I'm not pregnant either. It's a ... hmm... I don't know what it is.. But I know a lot of people who go through that.. Men as well. Anyway, as I was about to look up images for pancakes (Been craving NYC's Bagatelle's pancakes since the second I swallowed the last bite 7 months ago), I came across this very interesting blog called Closet Cooking, by a Mr. Kevin, no last name, kinda like Madonna, Shakira, Cher, oh and I just realized his family name is Lynch (saw his e mail address). So, Kevin, realized that his meals have been quite boring the past few years so he decided to look up mouthwatering recipes and share them with the rest of the world, from appetizers, to desserts, dips to soups, salads to bread. Mouthwatering dishes I tell ya! I'm salivating as we speak.. errr type? So, I decided to try a few of these dishes, and I'll keep you posted with how it goes.. I'll try to take pictures, won't happen anytime soon, considering my ridiculous schedule but very soon, I promise. I'm so excited. I kinda feel like Julie in Julie/Julia, only not! Hope you have a fabulous Monday because mine doesn't seem to be heading in that direction.

Friday, April 9, 2010

Take the stink away from your stinker!

Ok so when I decided to share bizarre/random trends with you, I wasn't expecting to be so amused, especially as I found this bizarre thingamabob (yes, yes I know I stole it from The Little Mermaid, so sue me!) Today's not-so-stinky trend is called The Flatulence Deodorizer. Apparently it's not so new, but it is to me and I wanted to share. What it does is, it destinks (I made it up, but it makes sense, no?) your stink! Get it? No? It detoxifies your gas.. It deodorizes your fart.. Still don't get it? It makes your gas smell better! Hallelujah! I wonder if they ship to Beirut, I have a few birthdays coming up and these are perfect gifts. Seriously! It's a well deserved gift!



Thursday, April 8, 2010

The Moon has a Secret

Today I'm keeping it ridiculously short and sweet. I've been swamped with work hence the inability to blog, however, you know how I always brag about my friends and how talented they are? Well I introduce you to Mariam Agha who's an animator. Click here to view her animation and to vote for her to enter the Top 200 Unsung Creatives on Wooshii. Not really sure what that means, but I'm guessing it's pretty cool for the animation world.
Hope you enjoy!

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Tick Tock Blah! Pfft!

Happy Easter everyone.. I know I'm late but it's been a long fabulous weekend. And I am soooo dreading today! Being back at the office.. with so much to do.. and all I can think about is how much more fun it would've been if this whole week was off! *sigh* Here's a summary: Beach, Vineyard, Dinners (emphasis on the letter 's'), drinks (emphasis on the letter 'drinks'), shopping (my poor poor card, I'm sure plastic has feelings, because I could've sworn at one point it was screaming), lunches, coffees, boxing (new thing.. love it.. hate it.. then love it again), My Fair Lady, laugh-till-you-cry moments, just-wanting-to-cry moments, sun, lemonade, board games, and soooooo much gossip! Wow I'm even jealous of the weekend I had! I want it back! Better than travelling even though I really wanted to go to the Island! Which reminds me, I need to watch Shutter Island! That's all for today I need to get back to work and can someone tell Ms. Tick Tock Blah Blah to stop! Really she's killing me with this crap!

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Earth, Wind, Fire.. No no, just Earth!

It's Thirsty Thursday Thursday and tomorrow's a day off! You know what that means... Yayyyyyy! I'm looking forward to this long weekend because I get to sleeeepppp! Even though it's a packed weekend and even though I was supposed to take a little trip this Easter.. I'm sort of looking forward to my days off. Anyway, since it's a long weekend, and I'm sure everyone's going to be out and about, so here's an outfit I came up with if you're looking to be sexy, feminine and down right fab! Expect dropping jaws and turning heads with this. I'm in love with the colours, earthy tones flatter and skin tone. For prices and brands, click here. And for musical inspiration, click here.



Have a lovely holiday/vacay/long long weekend. And in case I don't have to blog, then.. till Tuesday! Byeeeeeee!!!

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Jewelry with an Attitude (part III)

Hello hello. So as you can tell from my title, I am talking about jewelry, and not just any kind of jewelry.. No no... I'm talking about jewelry with an attitude.. Figured it out yet??? Exactly.. The Mukhi Sisters.. And they're back with a double bang.. Back with a fantastic ad Click here for a recap (part I) and (part II)
And if you guys remember, I've been in love with their ads ever since they started. They're so simple but their slogans ooze femininity and empowerment. Here's the ad:

And here are a few things from their collection, and these are just earrings, wait till you see the rings.. Oh my heart if I could own them all... *sigh*











And here's their multi-use headpiece, head band and choker. Isn't it so purrrrttttyyy??? Yup yup I know I loved it too.. Especially that all three uses remain big trends this summer. And the prices, as I mentioned in the previous parts, vary so whatever your budget is you can definitely find something there.

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Imma be.. Fit!

Hello people, Spring is in full bloom and I'm loving it. Been walking from work to the house or to wherever my destination is after work because the weather is beautiful. And because summer is right at the door. Seriously it's a knocking and I ain't answering! Why? Because, like everyone else, I tend to hit the gym right before summer instead of well.. making it my lifestyle. I'm just lazy like that, I can sit for 6 hours watching tv without moving and I won/t be complaining. Give me 4 push ups, and I'll bitch and scream like.... a bitch? Hahahaha but seriously, I'm keeping this short and ummm short :D summer's here people time to shed those few extra pounds and start toning up! this coming from me? Ha! I'll get back to you in a month if I last till then I'm giving myself a pat on the back!

Monday, March 29, 2010

Fancy a Wienie?

It's Monday... yet again.. And I stillllll got the blueeees for youuuu.. Sorry about that but for some reason I'm singing everything today.. So big possibility I have just broken into song and dance, but you wouldn't know cause I ain't telling!
So here's what I decided, every once in a while, possibly on a weekly basis, I will post a random (I'm aiming for 'weird' but just in case it wasn't weird I'm sticking to 'random') trend or finding in the world. And today's ultimately bizarre finding is Gum-Flavoured Hot dogs.
Yes people, I am serious! The can (that looks exactly like a hot dog can) contains 16 cocktail wienies that you just chew on! I find a hot dog that doesn't taste good with ketchup and relish and doesn't dissolve in your mouth at a certain point, just disturbing. Oh and it comes with a simmering red sauce. I have no idea what that one is for.
I wonder if they're serious or if it's just used for practical jokes or if it's real.

But I think I gave it more time than it actually deserves, so I bid you farewell.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

It feels like Paris in the springtime...

Good morning all your wonderful people out there. It's Thirsty Thursday and I'm Thirstyyyyyyyyy! But that's not happening tonight, it's all about tomorrow.. Why you may ask? Extra candle this year! Not fun! But anyway, today is a day off (supposedly) but I'm slaving away behind my desk. Didn't have time to create my sets but I did come across a blogger who shares a common interest avec moi.. Chanel and Fashion! Her fashion sets are stunning and I picked out 3 of my favorites. I love the colours, so pretty, so fresh, so chic! And I think by now you have noticed that I'm obsessed with neutral colours and nothing too flashy. Anyway I hope you like my selections for this week's set (multiplied by 3), and if you feel the sudden urge to spend all your month's salary on these items and just go out out and walk around town, it's perfectly normal. I'm itching to do that. Ta ta for now!